I've always set my own goals and taken steps to obtain them no matter what anyone else expected of me or wanted me to do. Being a teacher might not have seemed obtainable to others and might have been a lowered profession for others, but we are not molded by what others think of us or by what they expect us to do. We need to find our own way. I thought today's Daily OM restates this perfectly:
A lack of confidence today could lead you to disregard your aspirations and conform to the whims of others. You also may feel compelled to seek approval from authority figures or loved ones by adhering to their wishes rather than concentrating on your needs. Your efforts could lead to dissatisfaction if what others want from you or for you is not in alignment with what you want for yourself. You will feel happier and more fulfilled today if you can believe in yourself and validate yourself. Try taking pleasure in your own successes by cheering yourself on as if you were a good friend. By affirming your worth, you can take pride in your achievements.
When you are the source of your esteem, you don’t have to spend time worrying about what other people will think. Besides, the need for validation from other people often arises when we forget to validate ourselves. It’s amazing how quickly others begin to reflect our sentiments once we approve of ourselves. We become free once we realize that other people’s opinions have no bearing on what we do—rather, they are the mirror that shows us how we see ourselves. Cultivate self-worth today, and you can craft your life without worrying about pleasing others.
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